Mindset and Accepting (or not) Your Own Voice

One of the biggest challenges for many singers isn’t technique, but learning to accept the sound of their own voice.

Here are a few thoughts I’d love to share (and hear your experiences too):

• Why your voice sounds “weird” to you

When you speak or sing, you don’t just hear the sound in the air. You also feel the vibrations of your bones and tissues. That makes your voice sound fuller and deeper to you than it does on a recording. So when you hear playback, it feels unfamiliar. This is normal.

• Vulnerability is part of the deal

Singing often feels like being “naked.” That’s scary, but also powerful. Vulnerability is what connects us. Instead of aiming for a flawless, polished sound, try leaning into that vulnerability. Embrace the imperfections. They’re what make your voice human.

• Shifting the focus

Rather than asking “Do I sound good enough?” ask:

Am I being expressive? Am I communicating something real? Am I enjoying the process?

That shift makes a huge difference.

• Practical tip

Recording yourself is essential. It’s not about being harsh, but about developing your ear. Start with small clips. Notice details without judgment. And balance this by listening closely to other singers. Analyze them as much as yourself. It sharpens your awareness without turning into self-criticism.

At the end of the day learning to accept your voice is a process. It takes time. But the goal in my opinion isn’t perfection. It is expression, connection, and joy in using the instrument that’s uniquely yours.

Voilà! I hope this helps. What are your thoughts guys? How do you feel when you hear your recorded voice? Any tips that helped you embrace it?